Desi Infertility Combat

It all started in a crowded wedding and our entry was no less than a movie. Here the heroine was my little sister with a belly bump and I was playing the role of a victim of fates. The goons were all the aunties who had nothing to do but to meddle in others personal business and the movie begin.

First mental attack was from an eighty year old too old to walk aunty..."Tum neh kissi doctor sey check up kar waya. (Did u get your check up done by any doctor?)" Like Duhh~~~ as if I was dancing around since last three years..."Je maji karwaya hay bass app Allah sey dua karain (yes I have you pray to god)" and I escaped. Peace

Moving further there I met my darling chachi (Aunty) and at that point only I understood that one more bomb will be thrown my way...and after hi hellos here comes the bombardment" My daughter's sister in law also doesn’t have children but she is also ok with it". Strike one. "Jis key naseeb main jo ho." Strike two."I can give you her number if u want." Strike three."O Aunty Allah Rehman ur Raheem whatever is written will happen, by the way how is your daughter? Is she still saying no to all proposals (Strike one) I heard she likes "Ali" Aunty Zainab's son, (Strike two) I think aunty u should respect your daughters feelings, so what the guy is not educated or rich enough (Strike three…and madam you are out)

Second encounter was with my mother in law's friend " Beta I feel so sorry for you when ever I look at you. I pray that u get pregnant soon (and here it comes) By the way I know this baba (Oh God! Wake up and feel the twentieth century... woman).His nuskhay can work wonders on you as no medicine till now has (ouch).Wasay what did the doctor say about you?"……." Aray aunty I will for sure have kids you don’t worry just pray for me...by the way (here I go) Can you tell me about the divorce lawyer your daughter is consulting...Woh kya hay na my friend is having problems with her husband……..(look what happens when you mess with me)

Another aunty was talking to my mother in law saying "Your bare bahu (older daughter in law) has jinn ka saaya (ghost) on her, keep her away from your choti bahu (younger daughter in law) or else she will also not have kids...(oh dear dear god I don’t know whether to laugh or cry…khair rescue was my main mission)…"Khala your daughter is a widow but that doesn’t mean that she should be kept away from your other daughters as their husbands may also die…." Clean bold….

Later another encounter "How do you feel when your younger sister who got married two years after you is about to have a baby first? (A million dollar question I must say...well to be honest I feel like drowning myself in a public toilet but I instead) I said "I am very happy for her mashallah sey; after all she is my sister."And now it was my turn to attack " How is your daughter Sara? Did she lose any weight? I know this gym which works magic, its bit expensive but worth. By the way this is an internal news that my chachi is considering your younger daughter henna for her son, so don’t say no as no idea when Sara will get married and it is better that your younger daughter gets engaged soon as no idea when Sara will………." The God of Evil was smiling upon me.

Later I went to talk to my friend as she must be having an idea what I might be going through and expectedly unexpected happen " You know if you want to conceive you should make love with passion" (HELLOOO…..she has a 2 year old and a nine month old and another one is on the way, which gives me an idea about how passionate her love making is.)

What I don’t understand is why do people forget their own problems and meddle in some other person's issues. Infertility sucks big time and constant nagging by other people makes it more horrible. People don’t get it that this is a part of life, you can't get everything you want. Stop targeting women who don’t have children by unnecessary questions and unwanted advice as people themselves have daughters also and……. Getting my point.

People have children to extend the generation of their four fathers and also for the betterment of their old age so that they are not left alone. But again daughters get married and in most cases sons shift abroad with their family or they live in a separate house and what are the chances of grandchildren as it depends on God. So next time before questioning infertile women think first.

So all you infertile babes out their just chill, we will have kids some day. May be god thinks we are still not prepared for one or he has something more well in his mind which we are not aware of. The trick is to relax and be patient and let things go smooth till then we can enjoy and make the most of our lives and have fun.