Impressing Would Be In-Laws

Sons are like stars in a mother's eyes. They are the most pampered souls in the universe. There are several dreams in a mother's heart, when her son hits manhood. The first wish is to see his wife and kids.A mother always imagines, how her daughter in law should be and what should be her criteria, when choosing thee perfect bahu rani.And the dream turns into a nightmare when her Darling son informs her that he is head over heels in love with some chick.

This article is dedicated to all the would-be bahu's who are not their in-laws choice.

When a girl gets married, she gets a full package...she is lucky if she gets the guy alone but in the desi world the trend of joint family is very much in common.Getting married is beautiful but it turns topsy-turvy when in laws meddle. So, all the girls who have boyfriends and intend to marry them, must follow a set of rules, to have a perfect undisturbed life.

First thing comes first, FIRST IMPRESSION. Always remember when meeting your going to be mother in-law for the first time the trick is to SHUTUP, and just smile. Avoid opening your mouth a lot, act dumb and confused. she will love you for this attitude, as this brings an idea that you will be under her for the rest of your life.

Never be over dressed, when meeting your going to be in law for the first time nor be under dressed. Dress up according to the place or occasion. Taking dupatta on the head by those girls who don’t observe hijab is a big NO NO, as mom in-law can or will complain later that she liked the girl with dupatta. Avoid wearing flashy colors or revealing clothes. Wear desi full sleeved shalwar qameez, where qameez falling till the knees will do the job. Half tied hair and very reasonable gold jewellery will do. Wear gold as it may give and idea of you being well off but don’t over do it, as it may reflect that you are quite rich and this can cause troubles.

Take your darling sister in law in confidence. Gifts, not ordinary ones but nice ones can work wonders. Consider it to be an investment as later on she can make or ruin your life. Avoid interfering in her personal life and never let her get the "I am going out with your brother" image. Act as a friend. If she has kids, gifts again will play the game.

Be careful with brothers in law. To be frank, they are no threat but for your guys sake, if your brother in law is younger than you or is married, then all jokes are valid, but if older and not married then take care. Remembering birthdays will do. Or even calling them when sick...dont joke around a lot as it may give an idea of you being too free with guys. And trust me boyfriends or future husbands, well all the men have this bug in them called jealousy. They will never appreciate you being too friendly with their bothers aswell.

Fathers in law are of two types, very sweet ones, who actually consider you their daughter. And ones are those who act as if you are like their daughters, but when time comes they will forget you. So it is important to analyze what his nature is?? If he is against his son who wants to get married to some girl he likes, means he comes in the later types of susar's. The first encounter with susar will be when things get confirmed, but till then he is a threat and you have to do a lot of work after getting married, but until then consider him a s a sleeping villain whom you are supposed to work on later.

Keeping quiet before and after getting married is healthy. This may help in maintaining an affirmative image. Never give unnecessary advice or act smart. Being in constant contact will keep you more informed about the nature of would be relatives. Doing their work or helping them with stuff will also help.

Love is an amazing feeling and more amazing when two souls are supposed to be together for the rest of the life. But remember every thing in life comes with a price tag, nothing is free. So playing smart and acting dumb is one good advice to all the girl friends out there. Be patient and take your darling would be husband in confidence, as it may help you to have a healthy married life.