Asma Rashid: August 2008

So, what I am few pounds heavier or few kgs over weight or I look older then my age group or even my husband (ouch). Its not my fault my hubby dearest does not gain weight fast or not at all,, Ok even if he drinks melted butter he wont gain, and me,, I gain weight just by smelling food or passing near the kitchen.I am 5'7 (good height) and I am too broad, that’s why I look like a heavy set (or may be I am imagining things) my husband is also 5'7 and has a body opposite of the great KHALI and I look like a female version of KHALI ( o dear god just kill me).I never knew I had tendency to gain weight nor the capacity of being lazy to the core, it has been four years since I have been married, and I started gaining almost instantly or should I say next day after valima. I look hefty in all my honeymoon pictures (not fat). May be it was the wedding stress keeping me thin and once I became some one's wife BAM, no tension no worries and problem and maha lazy ( new bahu does not do ghar ka kaam remember)And the little weight gain increased on a little extent on a daily basis causing major effects on a year-end, and little by little, I gained 7 kg's in 6 months. Now a question for all math junkies, if in six months 7 kg then how many kg's in four years. Yes, your answer is right I should bury my self….AliveCauses of weight gain after getting marriedOver ConfidenceThis goes for all girls who are thin at the time of getting married and in their head, they are sure, they will not put on weight. Well a wake up call ladies, you will gain weight so keep a mental note from before that if you want to fit in your beautiful wedding dress after 4 years, take care of your weight now only.LazinessMainly all the house wives are fat, no offence to all of them but their schedules are full of crappy stuff, sleeping after sending husbands to work and kids to school, sleeping after lunch, No walking, awake all night watching movies and sleeping all day. Therefore, no activity results in genuine obesity.Mothers to BeThis category of women is the most sufferers because even if they do not want to eat, they are made to munch and after the kid is born, they are made to consume more coz of the baby's feed. Things made of ghee and butter, if you believe these things are helping the baby then you are off beam. This is only helping you turning into a cow, and after the baby is done feeding you will be done looking like an Attay Ki Goli (ball of dough).so when expecting a baby, get these things in your head that you are having one baby so you are supposed to eat for two persons not 20. In addition, kindly refuse to take butter and ghee made things after the baby is born, as these items are no less then killing machines, even if you do not gain weight you will die of cholesterol.Junk Food JunkiesIf you notice the life style of overweight inhabitants, you will look at the participation of junk food to the fullest. All kinds of fried food, fast food, chips, sweets and chocolates. Thanks to these treats from hell, couple of extra pounds is going nowhere. So people who do not gain weight yet after eating all these yummy delights. Congratulations. God loves you a lot. Nevertheless, if you do not belong to the above class you are one of those unlucky people whom God wants to take a test from. That is. A test of patients. To avoid eating these items is very difficult. Especially if you are a housewife. The only solution is to eat appropriate food so that you don’t feel hungry in the middle of meals and avoid buying these things, don’t enter the chips and chocolate aisle in the supermarket .This is the utmost remedy I can provide as these bad boys are hard to resist.Being over weight is horrible especially after being married; it is as if a person trapped in a container or worst. So if you do not want to look 5 years older then your husband and you do not want to be called your younger sister's mom, Take care. As the world is full of goodies and temptations are hard to resist.Husbands have different reactions when it comes on wives weight. They sometimes are too mellow or sometimes very stingy. The thing is when a wife puts on weight she looses her charm which she had when she was thin. Husbands are classified as I don’t mind ones This category of men are usually the non abusive one's, they always say that they don’t care how much their darling wife has gained weight, they are just so much soaked up in their wife's love that they don’t care, but a wake up call ladies, no matter how much they say that they don’t care, trust me when the point comes they don’t leave any chance of making fun on their wife's, provided that they themselves are skinny. In addition, immediately after making fun they end up saying, "Honey I was just joking, you know I don’t mind your weight"…...Bullshit.I do mind onesThis category is based on men who are verbally abusive or the sound of "Honey you are fat" is heart breaking. These men usually compare their wives with other peoples wives saying "My friend Jack's wife didn’t put on a single kg even after giving birth to triplets" these type on men want their wife to look like a super model even at the age of 80. They have this thing of showing off their wife in front of their friends and weight is a major hindrance in achieving their goal. Even though they do not mean to hurt their sweethearts but the way they portray is stingy and it hurts.The Thin onesThese types of men can be genuine dolls or bitchier then a mother in law. They think that they do not gain weight means the whole world will remain skinny. Well Hello…. The world does not work like this. All these types of men should consider themselves lucky as the tables can turn any time. Their wives (it is not as if only men are bad) can also subject thin men to weight torture. However, usually people compare husband and wife a lot like do they match or not, and the figures are different before and after the marriage.The Fat onesThese types of men are themselves victims of fates, and for them complaining about their wife's weight are unacceptable. Some times, they do complain about their wife's weight but as a result, they get it back big time because they cannot see their big bellies and chubby chins but they want a wife no less then a petite sized super model. These men are not abusive as they themselves are in the same boat.After all this utter description of husbands a question arises that how can husband and wife work together to resolve this issue of weight gain .Normally wives undergoes depressions and finds it really hard to control her eating habits resulting in weight gain.Following are the things, which a couple can do to eliminate those extra pounds.Believing in one selfThis is the first rule of reducing weight, unless and until you do not believe in your self that you can make an effort to change your life style and eating habits, nothing will work. In addition, here comes the part of a spouse to encourage the other instead of pulling leg or nagging. Do not be abusive and constantly praise the other, encourage and appreciate as your mental support can work wonders.ExerciseAnother couple's activity together is that if your spouse is thin and you are fat, no problem at all as exercise helps the body in several ways. Therefore, if you are fat or if you are thin, No problem, just take your tracksuit out and get down on it.Eating GreensInvolving more veggie's and fruits can help a lot, as it is the first step of elimination of junk food from daily eating habits.No SweetsIt is so hard to resist Ras Malaie or Gulab Jamun or the caramel filled Galaxy. Nevertheless, couples of extra pounds are going nowhere if these babies are entering the stomach. Avoiding sweets is very hard and to deal with the whole sweet embargo requires great zest. However, for a body like a super model some sacrifices are mandatory.Life seems distorted when it comes to Dieting, and exercising can be so difficult at times, but once a person is used to the fact of avoiding those habits, which may cause weight gain, life seems on tract and mirror starts becoming a friend. Moreover, the perfect part is to be more attached to your spouse.So All You Couples Out There Get Down And Boogie…